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We are the Ducommuns! There are 4 of us now-Craig, Laura, Zamara, and now Mahashavah, our 1 year old son. We adopted Zamara from Ethiopia in 2008. Our son is also from Ethiopia and we are hoping to bring him home soon. We live Flagstaff Arizona. We are so glad you found us. Take a look around and don't forget to leave us a message.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Zamara's 99 Cents Store Adventure!

As some of you may have heard over the last few months, we have been struggling with potty training. She had been doing good all summer and then fall hit and she started to throw fits whenever we even mentioned the potty to her. We have tried all sorts of methods: stickers, candy, princess underpants, etc...NOTHING DID THE TRICK. It did not bother her in the least when we threw away her precious "Arial undies". And that is saying a lot since she is in love with princesses. She just doesn't care if she has an accident in her panties. It seemed to be worse while she was at school since the teacher had 6 kids to look after and didn't have time to look for the "signs" that ZiZi was about to go potty in her pants. So it seemed for more than 2 weeks Zi would come home in not only a diaper but new clothes as well since hers got soiled.

The problem is not that Zamara doesn't know how to use the potty or doesn't know when she has to go, it has to do with control. I am convinced of that. She is very stubborn and willful. She had just decided that she wasn't going to go potty on the toilet anymore.

This last week though, we had a bit of a breakthrough. It wasn't anything we did, mind you. She just decided that she wanted to use the potty again. She even said things like, "Mommy, I need to go potty." It was amazing! So after 1 week with NO ACCIDENTS we decided to reward her.

On Saturday while Craig was at work, Zizi and I emptied her piggy bank and collected $1.15. I had her put the money in her purse along with a few other needed items (i.e. Buzz Lightyear action figure, a fake care key, a mirror, and a sippy cup) and we headed off to the Dollar Tree. I told her she could use her money to buy anything in the store she wanted. She was so excited. I even brought her little toy shopping cart so she could wheel it around the store and collect her items.

She was so excited and obviously felt very grown-up as we headed to the store. She was clutching her purse and kept checking to make sure her money was there. As we walked in the store, she put her purse in the front of the cart ("just like mommy does at the grocery store"). Our plan was to find several items that she MAY want, put them in the cart, and then make a decision at the end of the expedition.

The toy section is in the back of the store, so as we were heading that way Zamara saw a display of porcelain statues. They were horribly designed and painting was poorly done. Of course, you would expect nothing less from the $1 store! She was riveted, however! She picked out several statues and put them in her cart. One of the statues looked vaguely like Snow White.

So we finally got over to the toy section and we found several fun ideas: princess watch, coloring book, horse-head stick thing you can gallop around on, sparkling tiara, etc...

(side note: as we were looking at toys a boy of about 10 walked by us. Zamara yelled "oww!" and I looked over at her. She told me the boy had pinched her. She usually tells the truth, so I am not sure what happened or why the boy would pinch her.)

Once we had all the items collected, I spread them out on the floor and let her decide which one she wanted to buy. She loves watches, so I was thinking she would choose the princess watch. However, she waled right over the Snow White figurine and said, "I want this one". I tried to dissuade her for a few minutes by talking up the virtues of the watch, horse-head, and other items, but her mind was set! It wasn't that I didn't want her to have the figurine, I was just worried that she would try to play with it and it would break, and then she would have a meltdown.

We quickly put away the other items and headed to the check out counter. She put her statue on the conveyor belt and started to collect her money from the bottom of her purse. When it was our turn, she handed the checker her money, he handed her the change along with a receipt, and we headed out the door. She had the figurine in one hand and the change/receipt in the other. As we got in the car, I asked her if she wanted to put the change/receipt in her purse. She did not. She wanted to hold it. As we drove home, she looked lovingly at the Snow White statue and continued to say, "She is SOOOO beautiful". It was enough to almost break your heart (of course, she also said a strip mall was "sooooo beautiful" so I am not 100% clear on what her criteria is for "beautiful").

Anyway, Snow White now sits on the shelf in her room. 5 days later, she is still very happy with her first "real purchase". And I am happy to say, that Snow White is still in one piece.

Have a great day!